Yes, obviously penis size matters, but probably not in the way you might imagine.
I’m a woman, and I’ve had sexual partners of various sizes throughout my life. The smallest penis I’ve been with was roughly 3 inches, and the largest was 8.5 inches.
My verdict: somewhere in the range of 5.5 to 7 inches is ideal. If it’s much smaller than that, it can continuously slip out regardless of what position you’re in. That is incredibly frustrating. The only way I could have somewhat successful intercourse with the 3-inch guy was to ride him, sitting upright, and gently grinding.
Any vigorous movement or thrusting meant he was consistently slipping out. The sex was exhausting and unsatisfying, though it didn’t help that he lacked passion—no expertise, no energy, and no interest in foreplay.
The Reality of Extremes: Too Small vs. Too Big
On the opposite end of the spectrum was the 8.5-incher. It was not only long but very thick. In almost every position, it was painfully hitting my cervix. Some women claim to enjoy that feeling, but I’m not one of them. It’s a dull, bruising ache and not pleasurable at all.
He was actually an incredible lover—energetic, imaginative, with amazing stamina. Yet, he could never just let go and thrust hard without it hurting too much for me to handle. Some positions, like from behind, were completely off-limits. It was best when I was on top and could control the depth and angle.
Any penis that is large enough to stay inside regardless of position or vigorous thrusting, yet not so huge that it’s pounding the cervix, is great. The majority of women I’ve talked to about size feel the exact same way.
Massive sizes might make for good adult videos, but they aren’t always functional in real life. I don’t want to have to tread carefully during intimacy. I want to enjoy passionate sex without pain. I’d take a 5.5 to 7-inch size over an 8.5-inch one any day. My current partner is around 6.5 inches, and it’s absolutely perfect.
What Women Actually Care About
Truly, most women simply don’t care about size as much as you’d think. If they can feel you completely inside them and experience proper stimulation, they can be perfectly satisfied.
What we truly care about is your skill, energy, and connection. Be keen on foreplay and great at it. Be present, vocal, and care about our pleasure. Make us feel hot and wanted. It’s not complicated.
Even if you are on the smaller side, you can be an exceptional lover by doing these things. If the 3-inch guy had the passion and skill of the 8.5-inch guy, the sex might have been great. I suspect he felt like sex would never be good for him because of his size, so his confidence dropped and he just gave up.
Both extremes have their challenges; average to slightly above average is great; but neither is an absolute dealbreaker if you know what you’re doing. However, if your size is negatively affecting your confidence in the bedroom, you don’t have to just accept it.
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